Find your way to emotional healing: Turn any obstacle into a gem

image www.simeonschatz.com simeon schatz photograph & visual designLove is the most powerful and beautiful feeling in the world. It can make your world go round... It is also the place where you work out the most important issues inside you. If you are running into obstacles, it's always a great reminder to remember that love brings you closer to the core of who you are. In this way all situations can be seen as gems along the way, each giving you your best offerings.

Traumas can get in the way but with your best foot forward, you can help your loved ones—or yourself. Taking a deeper look at a few troublesome topics can help shed some light.

Addiction. It’s the word that breathes alcohol and drug obsession, hopeless dependence in relationships, and uncontrollable cravings & secretive behaviors. The list goes on... We should ask ourselves though this very question: What drives a person to feel trapped in a compulsive pattern of deceit and hopelessness, and actually believe there is no other way?

Imagine the person who has an uncontrollable urge to fill the missing gaps inside themselves with something destructive. Now imagine this is a person you love.

The addict cannot feel your love because his/her internal love is missing, so s/he seeks external help to feed the emptiness. If only you could hug this being with all your might and convince him/her to love life! It is not so simple though, is it...

It’s possible though that any kind of consumption or behavior that has the power for blatant destructive behavior, but wears a transparent veil to cover its core issue, can be healed. Paving a new way of life and really looking addiction in the eye can be scary though to do alone. Clearly, it’s simpler said than done to invite healthy habits to take the place of unhealthy ones. Reaching out for help is sometimes necessary, either to a professional therapist, a skilled yoga/meditation teacher, or a guide whom you aspire to be. 

When you find the warm blanket to help you rise up from the downward spiral of sadness, anger and fear that can rock your world, you can find the support you need so that you are left with a lasting effect and deep connection with yourself and others.

Infidelity. Extramarital affairs. A betrayal of trust in a relationship can alter all levels of trust and connectedness in a loving relationship. The true essence of cheating redefines the entire vibe between two people.

Can love reign over these shallow compulsions and hurtful choices when a precious mind and body are involved with another being? Or is this state irreversible?

This predicament can indeed be a crisis packed with emotional hurt and dire confusion. Having said that, the feeling of complete loss can in fact offer a chance for the greatest healing and transformation. Through love’s frailty and vulnerability, all issues that existed from the start become beacons to follow on love’s path to renewal. The rewards can be astoundingly beautiful as the two of you climb up from the bottom of the barrel together, with a greater, unforseen strength and understanding.

Life is a journey and it is important to take ownership of any level of infidelity with compassion and integrity. The two of you can turn this catalyst of deceit into a gem that paves the path for your past, present and future.

Divorce. the dissolution of marriage or partnership, can be one of the most stressful events in one’s life. As love and lifetime promises reshape and transmute into escape, freedom, or despair, this is no doubt a powerful phase of life brimming with openings to new pathways.

However, you could use a guide and supportive sounding board during this phase, regardless of your stance in this collapse of that which was once beautiful and promising. Your goal is to make a better life moving forward.

The most difficult component of divorce is the exhausting amount of time spent on blame, positioning, arguing and seeking a civilized solution that is tainted with emotions. A supportive ear is paramount to creating a peaceful center from which to think and respond with truth and sentiment.

Knowing that the next step forward can be daunting for many, it's important to get support through some level of counseling through this debilitating time, whether it be separation or divorce so that you feel a sense of dignity throughout the transition. 

Money. It has the power to keep us safe from harm, to evoke contentedness and health, but also can be a double-edged sword. When perceived as the means to an end, it can seductively steer our minds away from life’s most precious gifts that money cannot buy. Love is one of them. Bliss is another.

Relationships take a toll over this sensitive subject, allowing an inanimate means to breed life. Psychologically, money can grow to signify emotional worth and self-esteem, and open itself to competition, greed, guilt, mistrust and rank among a couple. Whether too little or more than enough, money can have an emotional power in love.

Promising to stir up thoughts and feelings you have about the core of who you are, this monetary substance actually has the potential to build strength into your relationship when together you invest in a clear foundation. You may discover your kindred spirit emerging from the fundamental heart of worth, as you each allow deeper messages about money to arise from your depths.

It's important to get real with yourself and your partner, and thereby separate personal value from financial means, allowing the true essence of money to attract more intimacy. It’s possible to redefine wealth together so that you can evoke what is naturally embedded in your unique individual and intermingled expressions.

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